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Anmeldelse af #Stop Stalking

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Anmeldelse af # Stop stalking af Eydis Dali – Forlaget Forfatterskabet.dk – anmeldereksemplar

Jeg havde glædet mig utroligt meget til bogen, det er ikke en af de bøger som jeg plejer at læse – tager udfordringen op og har høje forventninger til den.

Hvordan spotter du en stalker?
Hvilke røde flag skal du være på udkig efter?
Hvordan kan du få hjælp hurtigst muligt?
Og hvordan kan du vende et stalkingmareridt til noget positivt og vokse som menneske?
Dette er blot nogle af de spørgsmål, som bliver rejst og besvaret af forfatteren, der beskriver sit eget mareridt – et stalkingforløb på atten måneder med forfølgelse, overvågning og manipulation.
Hun beskriver også det efterfølgende forløb med healing af de psykiske skader, og hvordan hun kom ud på den anden side som en klogere og sundere kvinde.
Bogen er til andre ofre for stalking, enten direkte eller in direkte som pårørende.

Vurdering:
Jeg vidste ikke hvad jeg skulle stille op med bogen. Bogen har en fangende forside og titel som gør læseren nysgerrig på emnet. Bogen handler om forfatterens egen historie, fordi hun selv har været udsat for stalking i en hård grad. Bogen er delt op i hendes historie også en håndbog del hvor man finder de advarselstegn som er afgørende for en stalker. Den er skrevet i forståeligt sprog hele vejen igennem. Den var hård at komme igennem på trods af at den ikke var lang, men fordi at der faldt utrolig mange tårer under læsningen.

Jeg giver 6 hjerter ud 6 hjerter, fordi jeg blev utrolig rørt over historien, for man kan mærke at bogen har været hård at skrive for forfatteren, med at skulle genopleve det hele igen. Det er fedt at man har delt den i to med hendes historie og en mini håndbog, med hvad skal se efter, hvis man føler at der er noget galt. Bogen giver rigtig meget stof til eftertanke og er med til bryde igennem til at stalking skal tages mere seriøst og det kan denne bog helt klart hjælpe med i form råd og vejledning. Helt klart en anbefaling værd.

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PRESSEMEDDELELSE: Pop-up galleri í Dali

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Så er pop-up galleri í Dali igen ude med en fernisering. Igen åbnes dørene til det smukke lokale hos Voice Incorporated på Christianshavn. Der bydes på et glas, snacks og spændende samtaler.

Denne gang er temaet “stærke fortællinger”.

 

Det er 3 kunstnere med noget på hjertet, som de også udtrykker gennem malerier.

Nat Aske laver sine malerier på træ med akryl, Regina bruger akryl på lærred, abstrakt figurativ og Eydis udstiller sit 18 lærred værk, abstrakt med akryl, sand, bladguld og andre materialer.

En sej fællesnævner for disse 3 kunstnere er, at de alle er frivillige menneskebøger hos Menneskebiblioteket, der har til formål nedbryder stigmatisering og fordomme, én samtale ad gangen.

Vi glæder os alle meget til at byde alle dem der måtte kigge forbi velkommen.

Pop-up galleri í Dali blev grundlagt af Eydis Dali i 2019. Det er et galleri med skiftende tema, kunstnere og beliggenhed.

Det hele startede med at Eydis lavede et abstrakt værk af 18 lærreder. Dette værk fortæller om det 18 måneder lange stalking forløb hun var udsat for i 2014 til 2016. Værket har samme titel og er i forlængelse af hendes bog #StopStalking fra 2018. Endnu en kreativ form som Eydis bruger til at bearbejde det traumatiske stalking forløb.

Galleriet er en platform til bl.a. at få svære emner og tabuer frem i lyset.

“I maj måned 2019 kontaktede jeg en anden galleri-ejer, da jeg ønskede at værket skulle udstilles for at fortælle og oplyse om stalking. Der blev jeg opfordret til at lavet et pop-up galleri. Som sagt, så gjort og på baggrund af succesen fra sidste år, hvor temaet var “psykisk vold” holder jeg nu pop-up fernisering for anden gang med temaet “stærke fortællinger”.

Formålet er at samle folk og få nogle gode samtaler og hyggeligt samvær”

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English below

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Again pop-up gallery í Dali is open with an exhibition.

And Voice Incorporated invites us into their beautiful location in Christianshavn. We offer a glass, snacks and exciting conversations.

This time the theme is “strong stories”.

There are 3 artists whom have something important to say, which they also express through paintings.

Nat Aske makes his art on wood with acrylic, Regina uses acrylic on her canvases, abstract figurative and Eydis exhibits her 18 piece, abstract with acrylic, sand, gold leaf and other materials.

A fun fact for these 3 artists is that they are all voluntary human books at the Human Library, which purpose is to break down stigma and prejudice, one conversation at a time.

We are all very excited to welcome everyone attending the exhibition.

 

 

Pop-up gallery í Dali was founded by Eydis Dali in 2019. It is a gallery with changing artists, theme and location.

It all began with her creation of one abstract piece of 18 canvases. The art piece tells the story of the 18-month long stalking process she was exposed to in 2014 to 2016. The art piece has the same title and is in continuation of her book # StopStalking from 2018. Yet another art form that Eydis uses to work through the very traumatic stalking.

The gallery is a platform, amongst others, to bring difficult topics and taboos to the table.

“In The month of May 2019, I contacted another gallery owner, sin e I wanted to exhibit the art piece and allow it to tell the story and inform about stalking. She encouraged me to do a pop-up gallery. No sooner said than done and based on the success of the year prier, where the theme was “psychological violence”, I’m happily opening the doors to my second pop-up exhibition, with the theme “strong stories”.

The purpose is to get people together and have some great conversations and a nice time.

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….og noget helt andet!

Romanen ‘Kongekroner og Rubinens Hemmelighed’ af An-Magritt Wibell Nygaard-Ech har fået en vurdering og Lektør udtalelse fra DBC – Statens Biblioteker: “Romanens historiske fundament virker godt researchet, og de fiktive hovedpersoner blander sig vellykket med de historiske i en dramafyldt, storpolitisk historie, malet med en bred pensel. At de nordiske lande var så tæt på en ny krig i 1814, er nok ny viden for mange læsere af spændende historiske dramaer, der her får en tempofyldt, velskrevet oplevelse.” – – Af Helle Winther Olsen.

#betalæser #redaktør #dkmedier #nybog #roman #historisk #krigsroman #drama #napoleon #wellington #bernadotte #litteratur #biblioteker #bibliotek #boghandel #forfatter #halden #moss #kongekroner #rubiner #juveler #kronjuveler #anmeldelse #lektøranmeldelse #stoltkollega #proudfriend #eydisdali #kongekronerogrubinenshemmelighed #kongehuset #detdanskekongehus #anmagrittwibellnygaardech

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Voluntariness – one conversation at a time

The civil society is the volunteer nonprofit sector – a direct consequence of the danish constitution midt 1800 in Denmark. The civil community reflects how the relation between the individual, society and the state should be. A strong civil society is essential for a well-functioning democracy.

Here the economic control has no influence

Opposite to the State the civil society lies outside of the formal economy and the political system – outside of the states control – here the economic control has no influence, it is the common population that is a participant in the political life, opposite to the state and marked.

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The civil society are communities where you have to be polite – with other words “the polite society”.

Social volunteer work is, amongst others, to solve welfare problems

The social volunteer work are actions, which purpose is to give individuals or groups an increased welfare or care – or actions who aim after to solve welfare problems.

Volunteer work is something you do with others and which is beneficial for others besides yourself and your family, without getting payed for it or expectation of reward and when it’s organized with rules and framework for the activities – which states that regular helpfulness is not volunteer work.

Would you go to work tomorrow if you didn’t get a paycheck?

39% of the danish population is a part of the civil society.

Would you go to work tomorrow if you didn’t get a paycheck? Most people would answered with a very define and resounding “no”.

At the volunteer workplace, this is just what people are doing. My heart and my soul wants to be there and make a difference. The time and effort spent there is more valuable than any amount of money ever will be. To do something where the work is the pay in itself, adds purpose to my life. It increases my self worth and my self confidence, it, plain and simple, makes me a better person, also towards myself.

It was without hesitation and consideration when I started to do volunteer work

When I experienced the tremendous difference volunteer work in the civil community had on my life – it was without any hesitation or consideration that I took a leap of faith and started as a volunteer myself – besides the work, my network is increased with many different people and new competences.

Besides my book, the volunteer work is the best that has come out of my handling of the stalking I was exposed to.

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A friend told me once, that maybe I should thank the stalker for the following progress I went through, to that my answer has to be “no, I need to thank myself for my handling of the consequences caused by the stalkingen”.

Love and respect yourself

It downed on me how important it is to love and respect yourself and how important it is to know your own limits and life values. That it actually is a good thing if somebody dislikes you or even hates you. Haitrat from others means that you are standing up for yourself and your limits, so it’s a good thing, because people will hate or respect you and maybe even admire you for not letting others walk all over your boundaries.

There I meet empati, sympati and charity at its finest and ego is non-existing

In the volunteer work I meet people who are there because they want to be there. It is exciting, ressource strong, interesting and open people who I meet at the volunteer workplaces, especially in the social volunteer work, which is about helping other people in need, that is the most giving for me. There I meet empati, sympati og charity at it’s best and ego is non-existing.

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I have been a volunteer at the Danish Stalking Center and TEDxFrederiksberg, and I am currently a volunteer at the women’s shelter Danner and the human library. For the op coming period I am honored to have been chosen to be a voluntary lay judge.

When I first met the civil society

I will never forget that evening, when I for the first time had to make use of a voluntary offer – I called the volunteer telephone counseling at the Danish Stalking Center. Never before had I been in such psychological pressure, that I was driven to the point, where I had to contact a voluntary organisation and ask for help – nothing else had helped, neither my entourage or the police had been able to help me.

My volunteer work at TEDxFrederiksberg was for me to get new skills and next to that increased network, although first and foremost to get to know a very admirable concept from the inside, so therefor it was not so much about helping people, which I love the most.

The women’s shelter Danner has a special place in my heart, as it being a place where women and children who are victims of domestic violence, a place where they get all the help they need to move forward from the violent relationship. I can relate to these people, since it was a violent relationship with the stalker I escaped. I was lucky, to discover that so early in the relationship.

The human library gives me increased tolerance and less prejudices

At the human library I get the opportunity to talk to many people and increase the worlds knowledge to stalking. I also meet other human books and become wiser and enriched by a new story with every meeting, this gives me increased tolerance and less prejudices, one conversation at a time.

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As a volunteer I receive a lot from the cooperation, other than competences and netvork. I get access to relevant courses, which are quite expensive and I get invited to different events where for example food and transport is covered.

I can highly recommend volunteer work for everybody, because it gives you competences, network, lifequallety and so much more.

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NYHEDSBREV

Jeg var offer for stalking.

Jeg oplevede at jo mere jeg talte om mine oplevelser, jo bedre fik jeg det.

Derfor valgte jeg at stå frem med min historie. Men først var det vigtigt for mig, at vende denne forfærdelige stalking til noget positivt. Så jeg måtte flytte mig fra udsatterollen/offerrollen over på rådgiverrollen og jeg måtte studere alle rollerne inklusiv stalkerens rolle.

BOGEN:  #STOP STALKING – Sådan håndterer du en stalker

Derfor valgte jeg at skrive en bog om forløbet, en selvbiografi, hvor jeg deler ud af mine oplevelser og de erfaringer jeg gjorde mig.

Bogen kan bl.a. købes her http://www.forfatterskabet.dk/produkt/stop-stalking/ eller kontakt mig www.eydisdali.com – kontakt

VM i foredrag – ValbyMesterskabene 2018

Ja, jeg blev sørme semifinalist til VM i foredrag, hvem skulle have troet det…

Jeg vil mere end at skrive om stalking og arbejde som frivillig rådgiver hos Dansk Stalking Center. Jeg vil også ud at holde foredrag om stalking. Derfor stillede jeg op til audition til VM i foredrag – ValbyMesterskabene 2018 den 31. maj 2018.

Se min audition her: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yf8Ny7J2c3M lyden er bedst på en mobil telefon.

Dette sagde dommerne om min præsentation – helt vildt, tror aldrig jeg har hørt så flotte ord før:

Intenst, man bliver grebet med det samme. Man kan fra start af høre at det er en personlig beretning, at det er meget tæt på dig, og det virker og du har en ro. Jeg blev så optaget af det, at jeg glemte at tage noter, det må være et godt tegn.

Skøn rejse Eydis, man bliver zoomet ind i din fortælling med det samme og din faktaboks og opbygning fungerer helt fantastisk. Først faktaboks og så en præsentation af dig selv, “power-pose” “Fri” og dramatiske pauser. God til at lege “kispus” med pauserne som viser stort overskud som foredragsholder.

Tusind tak, der var nogle rigtig gode pauser, som byggede op og skabte spænding, meget fint. Tag dig bare god tid i begyndelsen, du snublede lidt ind i det. Din opbygning med faktaboks først gør at det ikke bliver privat, det er personligt, men ikke privat. Fint balanceret. Tak.

Jeg glæder mig til 1. semifinal den 27. september 2018 i Timotheuskirken kl. 19:00